There are some things you just don't see coming

Soooo this post shall be an explanation and a catch up all in one. I miss u guys tons or at least the people I think are reading me..... Sigh***    Here goes:

There are some things you just don't see coming like being a mom in high school. I totally knew unprotected sex could lead to pregnancy. But I really didn't see it coming

There are some things you just don't see coming like a failed marriage. I really didn't think I would end up divorced but sometimes we jump the gun and I did. Down goes Frazier and husband number one.

There are some things you just don't see coming like a really hard life. I totally knew it wouldn't be easy. I was warned and had seen for myself. But no groceries, no new school clothes, Shut off notices, unemployment, those cute lil faces looking at me tell them about the struggle and hope they don't get teased at a school? Didn't see that coming.

There are some things you just don't see coming like quitting a job you really loved because sometimes you just gotta move on. I really lived that gig, I loved the work and I loved my coworkers and I left them. I thought I might work there forever.

There are some things you just don't see coming like your ten year old "becoming a woman". Seriously it felt effed up typing that shit. She still wears panties with the days of week on em. This is nuts. I know that science has proven that this would happen but I wasn't ready. And I didn't see it coming. I really didn't. Not yet at least.

There are some things you just don't see coming like a chance to be married again. That guy you had a crush on at your job? He can totally become your forever and ever person! I had hoped for it, but I wasn't sure it would happen for me. And I'm so glad it did.

There are some things you just don't see coming like almost completely screwing your Second marriage up. Thought I had this shit figured out for sure. I knew we were both making bad decisions but I didn't think we would do that much damage.

There are some things you just don't see coming. We fixed it. Nuff said. We're going strong and working it out. It is hard but I wasn't always positive we would pull it off.

Now the short list of things I didn't se coming:
My computer died
My car broke down
I'm moving
My mom moved out and I miss her
I don't get along with my in-laws
I'm missing a few friends
And I miss blogging


Seemingly these are all things I should have and could have foreseen. But here's the deal: I'm whimsy. I believe in magic and miracles and that positive thoughts make for a better world. I really hoped that the world could be better if everyone would just get all whimsy with me. Then I fell from cloud nine right into depression (I didn't see that coming either). I'm better now. And my few readers are all caught up now. I shall not change my whimsy for the World. I will be me.

Teen mom says: I hate that my kids have to grow with me instead of me helping them grow. I often get scared that I'm effin em up

Mom says : hopefully they will be better for it. I'll help em grow, apologize for the damage, and they will be fine. Or I'll help pay for therapy :-)


P.S. my pc is broken and my normally well placed pics are just gonna show at the end which sux. And is also something I didn't see coming so here's a synopsis
Pic 1: me and my new Lil woman she totally looks like a baby
Pic 2: me and my hubby making it happen
Pic3:the result of unprotected teen sex. My two super awesome spawn
Pic 4: me and the shoulder of the first husband. I own no further proof he ever existed. Lol
Pic 5: me and my mommy. She moved out and I miss her
Pic 6: me and my bestie Nicole the friend that NEVER disappears.

Their Other Mom.... The Photographer

Thanks to great friends who stick around my kids have a second Mom. Nope I'm not gay..... my children have stolen my best friend.  I actually find this slightly annoying.   I love my kids, I love my best friend but somewhere in my mind I always imagined that the two would be somewhat separate. But... Nope. They have taken over. I occasionally get envious because I'm positive my oldest daughter thinks she's cooler than me. NO ONE should be cooler than me, right?

So here's the deal I've come up with several reasons they might dig my best homie more than me, I don't know why I've made this list but here it is:


1. Both Aneesah and Nicole are Leos. maybe this astrological connection helps them to relate to eachother, their moods, and retarded habits, idiosyncrasies, and shit are alike. I dunno. But I have decided this could be a major factor in all this.

These two chicks....way too close. 

2. She isn't big on discipline. She is the super fun aunt sorta mom type figure who even when she's fussing it just doesn't sound like it to me type chick.  I however, shall biteth off the head of an offensive teen/tween at a moments notice. Someone's gotta scare the shit outta these kids or else you end up on Maury Povich with that Loud screaming dude with the sweater vest right?

This guy always made me laugh... Bad kids watch out He's gonna yell at you!

3. She actually listens to the random shit they talk about. DISCLAIMER: I listen too but after it starts sounding like random babbling about TV and made up scenarios ... I'M OUT. I tune it out and check in occasionally for words that ring important..Don't all moms do this? Nicole has somehow managed to make them think she's listening, even if she isn't listening. Its a mystery really. I'll have to ask her if she listens..

4. She's a photographer, a really good one. I imagine compared to a mom who works at a funeral home (saving that topic for another blog) this would be much more exciting. She takes pictures of them, and they dig it. She even lets them take pics  when they are doing weird sister-y type things. She reminds them that they are super cute model status worthy of a photo girls. I tell them they are a pretty but a photographer? That's the real compliment ....... Whatever lol.

Tell me this kid doesn't feel like a model

Cool lookin pic right? Bean thought so.

See... No photographer would let them behave this way, It's cute though

5. They just love her. At some point I was gonna have to be realistic about all this. Number 5 will be dedicated to that. Nicole has been my friend since before they were born, outside of my mom and brother, cousins (you get the picture, people we don't see everyday) She has been one of few Constants in their life.  I'm a single mom, so their dad isn't with us, and I've been married twice- remove the first step dad now. So Nicole's presence is more predictable than most things.  Is she awesome well sure she's my best friend, and all my awesomeness can only be accompanied by awesomeness.

BUT, here's the deal: My kids take EVERYTHING!! From cream sodas, chips and candy, socks, scarves, earrings and my friends. This shit must stop! I don't go around being super cool chummy mom with their friends. They interrupt girls nights with phone calls .... to ask HER shit, and wine doesn't taste as good when you cant properly gossip and talk about shit they shouldn't hear if they keep coming in the kitchen. BTW they only find her cool separately, because when we are together, a few glasses of wine in....... Our music is dated and the stories we can share? they scoff at.


So there! Super cool more fun than my own mom Nicole! you are only cooler than me sometimes......

Me and The Best friend Nicole

Teen Mom Moment: Leave my friend alone She is mine and I'm your mom Appreciate Me!
Mom Moment: Get ready best bud, when that Mack Truck Hits Me..... You are ON DECK!!!!!


~l. rouge